Our environment and our surroundings.
September 7, 2019Our Surroundings & Influences
Our outside world and it’s influences on our lives.
We can perceive our outside world in two different ways.
- First and foremost learn about your primary needs, primary wants and secondary wants. Secondly, learn how to differentiate them and prioritise them in your everyday life.
- Your physical health depends on the quality of your Primary Needs — Without Primary needs, we wouldn’t have a healthy and physically active life, or we may suffer greatly without them. Primary Needs usually consist of food, water, energy (warmth (clothing and shelter)), sleep.
- Your mental health depends on the quality of your Primary Wants — Without Primary Wants, we wouldn’t have good mental health. Your Primary Wants are, typically, safety (security), love and a sense of belonging (intimate relationships and friendships).
- Your self-esteem health depends on the quality of your Secondary Wants — Secondary Wants usually aid us in having a more gratifying life. As a result, this develops healthy self-esteem. Your secondary wants are ego-based and self-actualisation based, e.g., a bigger house, control/power, knowledge, going to the gym, a mobile phone, a better car, TV, etc.
Summary: Learn how to reduce the effort you require to meet your needs and wants, and stick to the ones that help you to build a healing and constructive surrounding that allows you to accelerate your journey toward finding the absolute truth.
For a whole month record, recognise and track all types of influences in your surroundings.
- Separate the constructive influences in your surroundings. These influences could be, right people like good friends, or a good family where and with whom you can feel the freedom of action and freedom of thought. A clean and tidy space or a peaceful environment away from any pollution.
- Separate the destructive influences in your surroundings — Wrong people that hold you away from reaching your goals such as friends or family members. Lack of freedom of thought and freedom of action. Dirty, messy and trapped surroundings. An environment full of influences and pollution and holds you back from being your authentic self: Tv, Mass Media, etc.
Summary: Become conscious of your environment.
The living things inside the space you are in. (People and animals)
- Be aware and conscious of people in your circle. Be surrounded by the right friends, family, spouse and co-workers. People who help you and push you to find and perceive the absolute truth? People who do not hold you back (consciously or subconsciously) from finding the absolute truth.
- Surround yourself with people who shine a light for you, to see your path toward the absolute truth — People who are aligned with your beliefs and values, away from any ego and identity.
- Parents come in pairs. Both the mother and father should put in an equal amount of effort when it comes to parenting children. Parents should respect, comprehend and cherish divine masculine and divine feminine energy in themselves and each other. Masculinity and femininity complement each other, and together they create a more significant entity, and that is what a healthy childhood looks like, presence of both masculine figure to bring order and feminine figure to love and nurture.
- Have conversations with mutual exploration. Have a topic of genuine interest to the participants and this ensure that everyone both listens and speaks during the conversation. Allow every single person to express their opinion. Listen, truly listen to what others have said. Listen beyond the words. When you have a conversation with mutual exploration, you will get the chance to connect your soul with the souls of the other participants.
- When looking for compassion from others, choose the right people to connect with:
1. Do not ask for kindness from friends who respond with sympathy rather than empathy.
2. Do not ask for compassion from friends who have put you on a pedestal, as they will likely be disappointed in your imperfections.
3. Do not ask for compassion from friends who want to instantly make it better, as they will probably tell you “you’re perfect; everyone loves you”. That does not fix the cause.
4. Do not ask for compassion from friends who have the ‘victim personality’, as they will simply blame others.
5. Do not ask for compassion from friends who try to ‘one-up’ you, as this will provoke competition and egotistical battles, which is the opposite of being authentic, genuine and true to one’s inner self.
6. Connect with the right person, at the right time, about the right issue.
Most of us have been the friends mentioned above to others at some point in our lives, as it’s perfectly normal and human. However, when you need compassion, you should evaluate your issue and think about which one of your friends is most likely to provide it. If you can’t find that friend in your circle, go and find one, don’t go to a friend in desperation who you know is going to make you feel even worse.
- We all love animals — Is your animal clean and does your animal’s existence adding value to your wellbeing? Or it is better for both of you and the animal to separate so you both can increase your life’s quality? This is for the people who can not afford their own life or struggling to do so, but still looking after another being that it really shouldn’t be there in the first place.
Choose your surroundings wisely.
Take proud, and respect the space that you are surrounded by.
- Be aware of the space you live in. Does it enhance your wellbeing or takes your energy away?
- Be aware of the smell. Is it pollution, or does it enhance your wellbeing?
- Be aware of the noise. Is it pollution, or does it enhance your wellbeing?
- Openness and clear space. Is your area clean? Is your space tidy? Is your space respectful and according to your absolute truth?
- Is your environment respectful of and accordance with your beliefs and values?
Summary: Value your surroundings as a determinant to your health.
Be aware of your possessions and materials inside the space you are surrounded with.
- Find out if their purpose is clear to you. Are you going to use them? Do you need it? Or is it just an attachment? If it is an attachment, ask yourself these questions…”Does it bring joy into my life and add value to your wellbeing?” If yes, keep it, if not eliminate it.
- Are you able to use them? If not, are you able to fix them? When are you going to fix them? Does the attachment worth it for you and the people around you, to keep your divine space cluttered?
- Are they clean, tidy and representable in a respectful manner to yourself?
- Are they always on or always off? Do you allow your TV such as news, reality shows, series, the lyrics and the vibration of the music you listen to have a constant influence on your everyday life?
- Does the design, setup and colours in your environment enhance your wellbeing?
Summary: Always ask the question if the materials around you are in accordance with the absolute truth and your beliefs and values. Make sure they are not holding you back from reaching your complete potential.
All of us, as Individuals, work like an atom in each community.
- Our Collective Form (all individuals gathering and becoming one as a whole) builds the communities that we live in — Destructive communities are built from bad atoms/individuals and keep us away from reaching our highest potentials. On the other side, good neighbourhoods, made from suitable atoms/individuals and accelerate our journey toward absolute truth.
- Start from yourself — By starting from within and healing ourselves as an atom (Individual self), we are automatically contributing to the healing and improvement of our collective selves, inside an organic form (our community).